Two years ago I was asked by Jos Twist and Ben Vincent to contribute to an anthology of essays about the intersecting identities of non-binary people, which will be published as Non-Binary Lives by Jessica Kingsley Publishers on 21 April 2020.
The introduction to my essay, Out in the Establishment – the gender journey of an Outside Insider, gives a flavour of of what I have to say:
I have never felt totally comfortable in the spaces or boxes into which being assigned male at birth automatically put me. I pretty much always knew I was queer, but didn’t find any particular connection with gay men. I went to an all boys school, but didn’t really fit in. I look very masculine but don’t feel it. I shudder at the inevitable association that my physical embodiment creates with toxic masculinity. People see me and make assumptions about the person that I am. That is made more complex by being what I often refer to as an ‘outside insider’, a queer radical who lives their life at the very heart of the British establishment with all the inevitable privilege that comes with it. I bet there are very few non-binary people who have found themselves over the years deep inside two of Britain’s main political parties; the Freemasons; the Judiciary; the City of London; faith communities; London private members’ clubs; major charities; the board of a FTSE listed plc; and some of the U.K.’s top sporting bodies. This is my story.
I hope that readers will find my story, and that of the wonderfully diverse group of authors who have also contributed to the book, of interest.
Non-Binary Lives can be pre-ordered now on Amazon using this link.
Non-Binary Lives – Synopsis
What does it mean to be non-binary in the 21st Century?
Our gender identity is impacted by our personal histories; the cultures, communities and countries we are born into; and the places we go and the people we meet. But the representation of contemporary non-binary identities has been limited, until now.
Pushing the narrative around non-binary identities further than ever before, this powerful collection of essays represents the breadth of non-binary lives, across the boundaries of race, class, age, sexuality, faith and more.
Leading non-binary people share stories of their intersecting lives; how it feels to be non-binary and neurodiverse, the challenges of being a non-binary pregnant person, what it means to be non-binary within the Quaker community, the joy of reaching gender euphoria.
This thought-provoking anthology shows that there is no right or wrong way to be non-binary.
Ed Lord (they/them) has been at the heart of LGBT communities for many years and is a trustee of LGBT Foundation and a Stonewall role model. They are a senior elected member of the City of London Corporation, currently chairing the workforce and inclusion committee; as well as being a Justice of the Peace in central London; a trustee of Trust for London and City Bridge Trust; and a director of the British Basketball League and Middlesex County Cricket Club.
Ed received a UK national honour in 2011 when they were appointed an OBE for their public service in promoting equality and social inclusion.